13 Reasons Why this Life Thing Still Matters

13 reasons why

Hi. My name is “Sucker for Netflix.”

Sure, I can admit that. Why fork over $10 per month and never use the subscription, right? I get my money’s worth. And like most Millennials, I have binge-watching down to a science.

My evening workouts rarely occur without a Friends marathon streaming in the background. My hubs and I finished Stranger Things over the course of just one weekend. And my little heart did somersaults when the Gilmore Girls reunion dropped a few months ago.

Yeah…I know. Said almost everyone in my generation ever.

But there’s one Netflix series I can’t bring myself to get behind. And unless you’ve been hiding under a rock for the past several weeks, I think you can piece together where this diatribe is headed.

Three words.

13 Reasons Why.

The show that launched a thousand controversies‚ÄĒand even more opinions. The latest buzzword trending on social media, dominating water-cooler debates, and sparking Facebook rant after Facebook rant after Facebook rant. 13 Reasons Why¬†has everyone talking. But it’s the people watching who I’m concerned about.

Because I watched it too. The entire season. Binged all 13 episodes in under a week. And that’s a decision I regret.

First, lemme preface that I’m not persuading you to agree. Nor will I condemn you for grabbing the remote and hitting “play.” I’m just adding my voice to an important conversation because people are¬†going to watch‚ÄĒand their reactions could be visceral, painful, irrational, even detrimental.

Bottom line: these triggers are no joke. And they’re igniting aftershocks of despair in a world that struggles to find the hope.

This plot is fiction. The characters exist on-screen. But their episodic drama is the inescapable truth for actual names and faces. Human beings who’s experiences, narratives or traumas are being slashed open and torn apart by “fabricated” events with fatal implications.

It’s not just a show. It’s the current of our culture. It’s reality. But it’s not prompting change. It’s breeding conflict and cynicism.

And pain. So. Much. Pain.

I recognize what the producers were aiming to accomplish, and I maintain their intentions were positive.¬†13 Reasons Why does¬†cast a fierce, urgent limelight on rampant social issues which often don’t get the emphasis or attention they deserve.

Rumors. Bullying. Self-Harm.¬†Depression. Sexual Assault. Drug Abuse. Suicide. Real adversities with tragic endings. These need to be addressed‚ÄĒbut where’s the redemption, the endurance, the courage to survive, the intensity to overcome?

The show’s theme of retribution turns death into a mode for seeking vengeance. For wounding those who caused your wounds in the first place. A corrupted form of justice without the vindication.

Life’s fragility. Death’s finality.

The heart breaks. The spirit crumbles. You oust yourself. It’s over. The end.

But…wait. No. There should be more to a story than just one chapter interrupted mid-sentence. What about the resolution‚ÄĒthe conquest, the triumph‚ÄĒon the last page? That’s our motivation to keep reading. Persisting. Living.

Because we all can pinpoint 13 reasons to quit now and peace out from the wreckage of this world. But we have a million reasons to press forward, to confront the mess with a wink and a smirk, to focus on what’s good.¬†

So I propose a different message. 13 reasons you’re needed on this earth. Whoever you are. Whatever you’ve been through.

1. You’re a unique, multifaceted, extraordinary individual.

2. Your words and actions convey a poignant message.

3. Your influence or significance could never be replaced.

4. You’re creative, imaginative and brimming with talent.

5. Your idiosyncrasies fascinate and attract other people.

6. Your spirit of compassion enriches deep connections. 

7. You’re light and love in a dark, jaded, cruel society.

8. Your resilience today becomes redemption tomorrow.  

9.¬†Your merit isn’t based on size 0 jeans or 100 Instagram likes.

10. You’re here to fulfill a purpose designed for nobody else.

11. Your temporary struggles make you permanently stronger.

12. Your story will empower and encourage other broken hearts. 

13.¬†You’re not a victim who succumbed but a victor who continued.

Life is our platform. Our testimony.

Ours.

And what’s ours is worth fighting for.

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Netflix and…Don’t Chill!

On average, Netflix subscribers spend about 1 1/2 hours per day binge-watching their favorite shows. Which is 1 1/2 hours that¬†could¬†be devoted to exercise instead. But since the Netflix trend is here to stay‚ÄĒhey, fine by me!‚ÄĒwhy not put those multi-tasking skills to work rather than…you know…just sitting there?

If a show typically runs between 30 minutes and 1 hour, maximize this time by combining your daily Netflix binge with those easy-to-overlook-but-doesn’t-mean-you-should fitness commitments.

So, all you streamer extraordinaires, take a look at these suggestions for some no chill motivation…

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1.  Sneak in Cardio Intervals:

  • 5 minutes of jogging in place
  • 3 minutes of skipping rope
  • 100 jumping jacks
  • 50 high-knee climbers
  • between 30-50 burpees

2.  Do Bodyweight Exercises: 

  • 3 minutes of planks
  • 1 minute of wall sits
  • between 50-100 pushups
  • between 50-70 squats
  • 50 lunges on each side
  • 50 lower abdominal curls
  • 50 bicycle crunches
  • between 20-30 leg lifts

3.  Keep Dumbbells On-Hand:

  • 30 arm circles in each direction
  • 30 overhead tricep extensions
  • between 20-30 overhead presses
  • between 20-30 bicep curls
  • between 20-30 lateral arm raises

4.  Practice a Yoga Sequence: 

  • 1 minute of modified bridge pose
  • 1 minute of seated twist pose on each side
  • 30 seconds of warrior 1 pose on each side
  • 30 seconds of tree pose on each side
  • between 20-30 seconds of chair pose
  • 10 seconds of triangle pose on each side
  • 10 seconds of downward dog pose
  • 10 seconds of upward dog pose

5.  Give Circuit Training a Try:

  • during scene 1, do a cardio exercise
  • during scene 2, do an upper body exercise
  • during scene 3, do a core exercise
  • during scene 4, do a lower body exercise
  • repeat during the remaining scenes

 

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Alrighty. So, that’s how I¬†tune into workout/streaming success. How do you fuel a Netflix addiction without skimping on physical activity? Lemme hear¬†your fitness tips for a zero chill Netflix binge. And…go!

10 Excuses We Use to Avoid Exercise & 10 Reasons Why They’re Just Not True

You know the drill, right? List every possible explanation for why you’re chronically —¬†cough…cough —¬†allergic to the “E” word, and maybe…just maybe…you’ll feel justified bumming it on the couch all weekend.

Hey, who am I to judge? I love an occasional lazy Saturday too. But, this “exercise allergy” business?

Yeaaaah.¬†I’m gonna have to call that bluff.

So, allow me to debunk some classic fitness fallacies and how they may be keeping you from realizing your full physical potential.


Excuse #1:¬†I don’t have enough time to work out.

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Reality:¬†If you simply devote 1 hour each day to engaging in some type of physical activity, you’ll still have 23 hours¬†remaining.

Excuse #2: I feel dirty and disgusting when I sweat.

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Reality: Sure, you’ll have to make a date with the shower afterward, but sweating cleanses pores and flushes out bodily toxins.

Excuse #3: I might bulk up instead of toning up.

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Reality: While strength training does build substantial muscle mass, it also sculpts one hell of a lean, mean physique.

Excuse #4:¬†I can’t afford a fancy gym membership.

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Reality: If you can move around, you can whip that booty into shape, whether at home, outdoors, or in a fitness center.

Excuse #5: I am way too insecure about how I look.

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Reality: Don’t let shame keep you out of the game ’cause every body type and size deserves to feel the health benefits of exercise.

Excuse #6: I already eat clean, so that should be enough.

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Reality:¬†Props on choosing wholesome nutrition over fast food, but diet alone can’t compensate for zero physical activity.

Excuse #7: I get bored easily while working out.

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Reality: If your exercise routine is mind-numbingly repetitive, try something high energy, like Zumba, or zen, like Yoga.

Excuse #8: I kinda sorta enjoy Netflix too much.

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Reality:¬†There’s no law that bans you from working out and getting your Orange Is the New Black¬†fix at the same time.

Excuse #9: I always feel so physically drained.

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Reality: The toughest part is willing yourself to begin, but once you do, endorphins are guaranteed to power you through.

Excuse #10:¬†I just haven’t seen any positive results yet.

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Reality: Muscle definition takes approximately 4-8 weeks to develop, so think of this process as a marathon, not a sprint.


So, armed with this knowledge, go unleash your inner #BeastMode. ¬†I know it’s there.

But, more importantly: So. Do. You.