A Groom’s Take on “Sweating for the Wedding”

If you follow me on social media, you might’ve noticed my not-so-subtle references to recently getting engaged. BUT, if you follow almost any engaged woman on social media, you’ll be hard pressed to escape #SweatingForTheWedding posts.

In fact, this Instagram search yields 171,277 results—talk about a staggering number of body conscious brides-to-be! Yet, with all the emphasis placed on that “feminine ideal,” who could blame them?!

Since I’ve been tempted to dabble in said fitness fad (hellllooooo…this girl’s gotta fit into an Alfred Angelo dress 8 months from now!), I enlisted my future hubby for his stance on the subject. Thus, our discussion became a blog post.

Check it out, bridal beauties, straight from a guy’s POV:

Sweating for the Wedding

image courtesy of CNDY via Flickr Creative Commons  (changes have been made)

I’m fairly new to this whole “Sweating for the Wedding” thing. In fact, I didn’t even know it existed until my fiancé brought me up to speed once I put a ring on her finger.

Now, after Googling the phrase, I can attest that “Sweating for the Wedding” has indeed gone viral. Brides can get dri-fit shirts with this hashtag printed across the front. There are even water bottles, car decals, sweat bands and more, urging women to jump on the bandwagon.

Listen, I’m all about exercising and maintaining a healthy lifestyle, but I also feel this trend could send a harmful message to some women—especially those who struggle with insecurities surrounding weight or body image.

Not to mention, if these insecurities are triggered by stress, they’ll escalate into overdrive once those wedding plans get underway. I’ve only been engaged for about a month, yet I can already vouch for all the time, energy and craziness that goes into this process. So, with the added pressure of sculpting that “perfect bod”…well, you’re eventually gonna crack.

While there’s nothing wrong with prioritizing fitness, “Sweating for the Wedding” is not a prerequisite for marriage. Your future husband already finds you sexy. He wouldn’t have pursued you in the first place if he wasn’t sexually attracted, right? Exactly. You’ve got nothing to prove.

Men are visual creatures. I am a man, so I’ll freely admit this. But I can also assure you that any guy, who kneels down and proposes, thinks the girl standing in front of him is drop-dead gorgeous. She’s the only woman he sees—guaranteed.

Anyone, who’s anxiously anticipating their wedding day, wants to turn their spouse’s head. However, when this goal manifests itself through extreme workout regimens, it could result in serious physical damage.

I hope my fiancé knows that her appearance and physique will never disappoint me. From my—okay, biased—viewpoint, she’s the most beautiful woman alive, and my jaw will drop when I see her walk down the aisle. She doesn’t need to impress me…or anyone else, for that matter.  

Same goes for you other brides out there. Imagine how your husband will perceive you that day. After all, his devotion isn’t only surface-deep.

And, if you opt to workout beforehand, make it a bonding activity for both of you. Be each other’s accountability partner, so—rather than just “Sweating for the Wedding”—you’ll discover positive motivation for long-term health.  No hashtag needed.

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Can you see why I’m marrying him, ladies? The dude’s a keeper (and my self-esteem levels concur)!

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I’m painfully awkward sometimes.

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But at least we clean up good.

 

10 Thoughts Just About Every Woman Has While Working Out

Because when it’s time to get that #BeastMode on, the emotions are raw, the muscles are burning, and the satisfaction is worth…well, everything.

But, seriously. Can’t we all just relate?

1. When the motivation to move simply doesn’t exist:

Sure, blame it on the bod. Seems legit!

But, of course! Blame it on the bod. Seems legit.

 2. When you kick lazy’s ass and enter the fitness zone:

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Leg day? Ab day? Cardio day? Doesn’t matter. It. Is. On.

 3. When you’ve been sweating for a solid 10 minutes:

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So…Is that a roll or a 6-pack? Definitely a 6-pack.

 4. When the endorphins start working their magic:

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Body = numb. Brain = euphoric. It all evens out!

 5. When you notice that your gym clothes are kinda ratty:

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Finish sit-ups. Buy new active wear. Brilliant plan.

 6. When social media distractions start calling your name:

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Never too sweaty to post a selfie, right?!

 7. When you are almost…almost…almost…done: 

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Just…One…More. Aaaaaand, nap time. Forever.

 8. When it feels like your hotness level just tripled:

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Exercise: because your confidence demands it.

 9. When all that pride is replaced by pain — so much pain:

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Yeah, but it’s a “good” sore. No pain, no gain. Or, whatever…

 10. And when you’re suddenly too hungry to care anymore:

Dear, progress: same time, same place tomorrow. But right now, you no longer exist to me!

Same time and place tomorrow, Progress. But right now, you don’t exist

Yep. The struggle sure is real. But every #FitChick knows she wouldn’t have it any other way!