A Groom’s Take on “Sweating for the Wedding”

If you follow me on social media, you might’ve noticed my not-so-subtle references to recently getting engaged. BUT, if you follow almost any engaged woman on social media, you’ll be hard pressed to escape #SweatingForTheWedding posts.

In fact, this Instagram search yields 171,277 results—talk about a staggering number of body conscious brides-to-be! Yet, with all the emphasis placed on that “feminine ideal,” who could blame them?!

Since I’ve been tempted to dabble in said fitness fad (hellllooooo…this girl’s gotta fit into an Alfred Angelo dress 8 months from now!), I enlisted my future hubby for his stance on the subject. Thus, our discussion became a blog post.

Check it out, bridal beauties, straight from a guy’s POV:

Sweating for the Wedding

image courtesy of CNDY via Flickr Creative Commons  (changes have been made)

I’m fairly new to this whole “Sweating for the Wedding” thing. In fact, I didn’t even know it existed until my fiancé brought me up to speed once I put a ring on her finger.

Now, after Googling the phrase, I can attest that “Sweating for the Wedding” has indeed gone viral. Brides can get dri-fit shirts with this hashtag printed across the front. There are even water bottles, car decals, sweat bands and more, urging women to jump on the bandwagon.

Listen, I’m all about exercising and maintaining a healthy lifestyle, but I also feel this trend could send a harmful message to some women—especially those who struggle with insecurities surrounding weight or body image.

Not to mention, if these insecurities are triggered by stress, they’ll escalate into overdrive once those wedding plans get underway. I’ve only been engaged for about a month, yet I can already vouch for all the time, energy and craziness that goes into this process. So, with the added pressure of sculpting that “perfect bod”…well, you’re eventually gonna crack.

While there’s nothing wrong with prioritizing fitness, “Sweating for the Wedding” is not a prerequisite for marriage. Your future husband already finds you sexy. He wouldn’t have pursued you in the first place if he wasn’t sexually attracted, right? Exactly. You’ve got nothing to prove.

Men are visual creatures. I am a man, so I’ll freely admit this. But I can also assure you that any guy, who kneels down and proposes, thinks the girl standing in front of him is drop-dead gorgeous. She’s the only woman he sees—guaranteed.

Anyone, who’s anxiously anticipating their wedding day, wants to turn their spouse’s head. However, when this goal manifests itself through extreme workout regimens, it could result in serious physical damage.

I hope my fiancé knows that her appearance and physique will never disappoint me. From my—okay, biased—viewpoint, she’s the most beautiful woman alive, and my jaw will drop when I see her walk down the aisle. She doesn’t need to impress me…or anyone else, for that matter.  

Same goes for you other brides out there. Imagine how your husband will perceive you that day. After all, his devotion isn’t only surface-deep.

And, if you opt to workout beforehand, make it a bonding activity for both of you. Be each other’s accountability partner, so—rather than just “Sweating for the Wedding”—you’ll discover positive motivation for long-term health.  No hashtag needed.


Can you see why I’m marrying him, ladies? The dude’s a keeper (and my self-esteem levels concur)!

engagement 1

I’m painfully awkward sometimes.

engagement 2

But at least we clean up good.


The Argument Against Forbidden Fruit

demonizing fructose

I’m no wellness expert.

Just a self-taught observer of health industry trends — who sometimes can’t resist aiming a snarky “say whaaaat?” at said trends.

Don’t get me wrong. You won’t find this girl disputing EVERY superfood discovery, holistic remedy or fitness craze that bursts on the scene. I’ve been known to guzzle kombucha and swear by kale, after all. But certain nutritional advice, I just can’t get behind.

Like demonizing fruit, for instance.

You haven’t heard? The fructose content in these plant by-products [formerly-known-as-healthy] causes weight related issues.

And the logical defense against this grave peril? Put down that apple. Back away from the produce stand. Eliminate fruits from your diet. All of ’em. Seriously…get with the times.

I’m not convinced, though. This claim carries a suspicious whiff of extremism that I don’t accept at face value.

Avoiding sucrose (a.k.a. refined sugar) makes total sense, but cutting out fructose — a natural carbohydrate which our bodies metabolize into energy — seems like overkill.

I digress, excess sugar consumption in any form leads to addictive cravings and medical conditions like cardiovascular disease, hypertension or diabetes. But the keyword here is excess.

On average, the USDA recommends 1/2 cup servings of fresh fruit 3 times per day, so overindulging could negatively impact your well-being. However, research indicates you’d have to overindulge like it’s your job before these health risks would even take effect.

study, during which participants consumed about 60 grams of fructose, showed spikes in blood sugar levels after ingestion. No bueno, right?

Well…yeeaaah. Until you break down those results.

Here’s what the study conveniently forgets to mention — this fructose amount equals 9 bananas, 5 apples or 120 strawberries. Since when did you last devour 9 bananas over a 24-hour period?

…….Anyone???  Case. In. Point.

Besides,  fruit contains nominal fructose levels, compared with other sweetened pick-me-ups. While an apple has about 13 grams of fructose, a medium Coke has 33 grams.

The takeaway? Any food, whether plant-based or processed, can become harmful in EXTREME quantities. Fruit — or, even the fructose molecule — is not your nemesis, though. When enjoyed in MODERATION, it’s a wholesome addition to any diet.

Sure, those wellness gurus might demonize “nature’s candy,” but what’s the alternative? Satisfying your sweet tooth with actual candy?

Perspective, people.

fruits are friends